Respect the Man

I think it’s inherent in us guys to want respect. We demand it from our little brothers, try to wheedle it out of our big sisters, and expect it from our wife.

We breathe it like we do air and, for some of us, it’s even more important than sex. But respect and your paycheck have a lot in common: both have to be earned.

Start by not joking so much and don’t treat life/others like a joke.

While friends may laugh at you when you try to be funny-they’re doing just that: laughing at you, not respecting you.

I grew up in a heavily black (African-American) society and where it seemed that everything should make someone else laugh. However I learned early on in middle school something that they don’t teach you in textbooks: the joker never really wins. 

I stopped trying to be the class clown and took a more “hands-on,” dedicated approach to life and quickly found out that this was the kind of man I wanted to be.

A few years later, I met the most wonderful woman in the world. We’re about to celebrate our 14th anniversary this year and she recently told me that  one of the things she loved about me was my serious approach to life.

That got me thinking:

What if I was the kind of guy who had his pants hanging down and walked around cracking jokes about everything? What if my life’s ambition was to beat the next level of some video game? Would she respect me as much as she does?

While it’s okay to have a sense of humor, it’s hard to respect a man who treats his life like a joke.

The Bible says that a wife should “reverence her husband” (Eph. 5:33).  The flip side  is that a man must be the kind of man that woman can reverence. It all starts and ends with you: the man.

Ask yourself honestly: if you were someone else, would you respect yourself?

Omega Truth

My last post, MM#2: Lead!, mentions respect. I think it’s inherent in us guys to want respect. We demand it from our little brothers, try to wheedle it out of our big sisters, and expect it from our wife.

We breathe it like we do air and, for some of us, it’s even more important than sex. But respect and your paycheck have a lot in common: both have to be earned.

Start by not joking so much and don’t treat life/others like a joke.

While friends may laugh at you when you try to be funny-they’re doing just that: laughing at you, not respecting bigstock-Man-with-black-mask-March-36-300x198you. I grew up in a heavily black (African-American) society and where it seemed that everything should make someone else laugh. However I learned early on in middle school something that they don’t teach you in textbooks: the joker never really wins. 

I stopped…

View original post 203 more words

Why Do Compliments Matter?

Why is complimenting your spouse an important element of having a successful marriage? 1. Intimacy Stays Ignited - After some time, couples can take each other for granted. Giving compliments lets a spouse know that what they are doing or how they look is being noticed. Giving a simple or poetic compliment can work to... Continue Reading →

Why Can’t Women Say What They Mean?

"Why can't women just say what they mean?" Many men have asked this question. Why does it seem that women say one thing but mean something else? This causes frustration, anger, and sometimes tears. The truth is that while men use a very direct form of communication, women use many forms of indirect communication. She... Continue Reading →

A Great Love Life

Do you ever wonder why it's important to be your spouse's best friend? Here are some reasons why. A fulfilling marriage A happy relationship A great love life A loving and full relationship requires both husband and wife to be completely open and honest with each other. There should nothing about each spouse that the... Continue Reading →

Seduce Your Husband

Conquer. Conquer and Seduce. To conquer means: to successfully overcome a problem or weakness. A wife needs to conquer her fear of embarrassment and shyness so that she can seduce her husband. To seduce means: to attract powerfully. The act of seducing your husband is how you show your love, interest, and devotion to him.... Continue Reading →

Become the “Queen of Romance”

Fill in the blank: "If I do___________, my husband would be so shocked!" Whatever you just completed the sentence with do it and "shock" your husband. Surprise him! It's true that the more we do things, the better we become at doing them. The more you "wow" your husband, the better you'll become at it.... Continue Reading →

Happily Married Couples Tend To…

We've all heard at some point or another that communication is an important part of marriage. My husband and I had even made it part of our marriage seminars in "Marriage:The Bliss Never Ends" and "Marriage:Decoding the Mystery". It really is a true statment: Communication is a key element to a successful marriage. There are... Continue Reading →

Create a website or blog at WordPress.com

Up ↑

%d bloggers like this: