Make it your goal to not revisit the past.
When things get rough in a marriage, couples tend to wonder if their spouse was really the "right one."
As we've FINALLY been getting some warmer weather in our part of the world and the wedding season begins (or has it already begun?) my mind goes back to the day I got married. This post is not about my wedding day nor is it about how giddy I felt once I was married. My... Continue Reading →
Ever played on a team for a particular sport? What would happen if you went to the opposing team and told them about the bad moves your teammates had? How would your teammates feel about you being on the team when they’ve learned what you’ve done? If you’ve read any of my previous articles, you... Continue Reading →
With so many platforms of communication available to us, we need to make sure that it is not taking over our lives. Communicating on these platforms can have some serious effects. Communicating with someone you once had a relationship with has its dangers, so does communicating with others of the opposite gender. Did another man... Continue Reading →
Most people, if you ask them, don't plan on having an affair. However, there are certain behaviors that lead people towards this downward path.
Does hearing someone criticize you put you on the war path? Do you get defensive? When your spouse is criticizing you or holding you in contempt it may seem like they are superior to you and are constantly putting you down. You begin to feel: 1. Unappreciated 2. Disliked 3. Misunderstood 4. Disrespected These negative... Continue Reading →
After learning about your spouse's positive and not-so-positive traits, it can be easy to fall into the trap of wanting to change them and begin to negatively criticize them. Let's take a look at the definition of criticism. Criticism: the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes. (Google) Criticizing... Continue Reading →
About a week after returning from our honeymoon in Paris, my father unexpectedly passed away. Then within the space of 5 years both of my husbands’ parents passed away as well. While we grieved for our parents, we clung to each other and became emotionally hardened at having experienced so many losses in such a... Continue Reading →
We want our marriages to last a lifetime. Yet, after some years of marriage small things that can have lasting impacts creep in: mistrust, less communication, or infrequent sex. How can you protect your marriage from the hurt that these problems bring? 1. Spend time regularly with your spouse - There’s no better way to... Continue Reading →
I'd love to say that our plans always work out but the reality is that sometimes they just don't. How do you handle a disappointing resolution to a situation when you and your spouse were counting on a positive outcome? Do you: 1. Blame each other? 2. Get discouraged, angry, or moody? As team players... Continue Reading →
Without realizing it, mental lists of complaints can start forming in our heads. We often look at the things that our spouse hasn't done or isn't doing and get frustrated. Having this mental list doesn't make us feel positive towards our spouse or our marriage. In fact, if these thoughts continue without being expressed (at... Continue Reading →
Our words have so much power. We say them and can never take them back. We can never call back the hurt or anger they may have caused. Do we ever really think before we speak? We know we should..but do we ever take that extra step? In those first few years after being married,... Continue Reading →