Conflict because of gender differences in marriage is not necessarily a bad thing. It is not just about the perspectives each may have on the conflict but its source. Is there ambiguity about what each spouse thinks is important? Incompatible goals? Limited resources such as money? Or is it a lack of direct communication?
Find the source of the conflict, have an open mind about each other’s perspective, and develop goals that will bring you both satisfaction. Don’t forget to track your progress!