In the U.S., Thanksgiving is a time where we reflect on our blessings—the good things we’ve enjoyed throughout the year. At FM we’ve challenged couples to express their gratitude to each other as part of our monthly theme.
I’d like to ask you to take this a step further today. Think back on the hard times you’ve shared as a couple. Maybe the loss of a job. An illness that’s set you back. Or even the loss of someone you love.
The Bible tells us
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV
It’s not telling us we’ll like everything that happens—or that every situation we find ourselves in as a couple will be enjoyable—but that we should thank God anyway because we know that He’s working everything for His greater plan. And that includes our mistakes.
Lois and I have found that the hard times in our marriage have ultimately made us stronger. When her father unexpectedly passed away, one week after we got back from our honeymoon, it threw me into the role of comforter as well as husband. I didn’t know if I was doing the job 100% right, but she appreciated what I gave, and that experience made the bond of our new marriage that much tighter.
When we struggled to put bread on the table, we learned that God is the provider. In the times where we felt we couldn’t understand each other, we learned the power of compromise and committal.
So, in the end, I think couples should be grateful for the hard times. Because through them, we’ve learned just how strong we can be … together.
Have you learned anything from a rough experience in your relationship? Tell us about it in the comments.
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