Grateful for the hard times?

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In the U.S., Thanksgiving is a time where we reflect on our blessings—the good things we’ve enjoyed throughout the year. At FM we’ve challenged couples to express their gratitude to each other as part of our monthly theme.

I’d like to ask you to take this a step further today. Think back on the hard times you’ve shared as a couple. Maybe the loss of a job. An illness that’s set you back. Or even the loss of someone you love.

The Bible tells us

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV

It’s not telling us we’ll like everything that happens—or that every situation we find ourselves in as a couple will be enjoyable—but that we should thank God anyway because we know that He’s working everything for His greater plan. And that includes our mistakes.

Lois and I have found that the hard times in our marriage have ultimately made us stronger. When her father unexpectedly passed away, one week after we got back from our honeymoon, it threw me into the role of comforter as well as husband. I didn’t know if I was doing the job 100% right, but she appreciated what I gave, and that experience made the bond of our new marriage that much tighter.

When we struggled to put bread on the table, we learned that God is the provider. In the times where we felt we couldn’t understand each other, we learned the power of compromise and committal.

So, in the end, I think couples should be grateful for the hard times. Because through them, we’ve learned just how strong we can be … together.


Your turn:

Have you learned anything from a rough experience in your relationship? Tell us about it in the comments.

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4 thoughts on “Grateful for the hard times?

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  1. God blesses us in so many ways. Sometimes we don’t like them, but it’s still blessing. If we, as married couples, stay together and work through the tough times, we are stronger and more in love afterward. It’s so sad when couples don’t stick it out: they never get the rainbow on the other end.

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    1. Kathy I couldn’t have said it better myself. Sometimes we focus on the dark spots without realizing that there’s something better ahead if we hold true to each other and to the Lord. Thanks for your insight. Much appreciated.

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  2. This is absolutely true! Every couple must see these hard times as a blessing in disguise. Instead of turning against one another, Use this to strengthen the relationship even more by working it out together. My boyfriend and I experienced major fights. It was awful. But after we talk about it and find a solution into it, our relationship become more deeper and meaningful!

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