As we’ve FINALLY been getting some warmer weather in our part of the world and the wedding season begins (or has it already begun?) my mind goes back to the day I got married.
This post is not about my wedding day nor is it about how giddy I felt once I was married.
My husband and I were happy to live together and share everything but we often got annoyed and angry with each other. This was not something we’d imagined happening. The lesson learned is: when you start living with your spouse you WILL get annoyed.
Annoyances and frustrations are one way that fighting begins. How to diffuse the situation?
1. Don’t sweat the small stuff: Choose to overlook something that is small and just let it go.
2. TTT: (Time, Tone, Together) Choose the right time, watch your tone, and talk about your concerns when you are alone together.
3. Listen: If your spouse has a hard time keeping their tone under control, try to listen to what’s being said, not how it’s said.
4. Don’t skirt the issue: Work out the issue or work around it. If the issue is ignored it will return again to cause another argument in the future.