Most people, if you ask them, don’t plan on having an affair. However, there are certain behaviors that lead people towards this downward path.
While some behaviors may seem innocent and insignificant, they can often lead to a much bigger issue.
The behavior we’ll talk about today is: Confiding in someone of the opposite gender.
A great question to think about in regards to this issue is “Can I confide everything to my spouse?” If your answer is no or you’re not sure if you can, then there needs to be higher trust levels in your marriage.
Confiding in someone of the opposite gender outside of your family makes you vulnerable. When he or she gives you their shoulder to cry on and/or embraces you, it may lead to something more intimate. If you have a problem, you should be able to talk about it with your spouse.
I firmly believe that couples need to be open and honest about their feelings with each other.
Your spouse should be your best friend, supporter, and the one you turn to when you feel troubled.
Fearless Marriage 
I am in total agreement!
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Thanks for reading.š
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I know a lot of marriages that broke up over infidelity but not that began with an emotional affair. This is an interesting concept. I am firm on not doing anything that would even give the perception that something may have happened. You never know whoās watching and if everyone felt that way then theyād be less inclined to make the inappropriate moves. I enjoyed your post!
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Thanks for reading and your comment, Barbara. This article, and ones that will come in this series, will take a look at behaviors that can lead to the path of infidelity. I think that path begins in the small, different ways we behave.
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My husband is a pastor and one of the first ārulesā we adopted in this role is that he would not counsel a woman in private. I would be somewhere close by. Some would say that shows a lack of trust. We think it shows wisdom in understanding the frailty of mankind.
Also if you cannot trust your spouse with your feelings, then how can you trust another that you do not know as well as your spouse? Your point of view is not popular but it is wise.
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I agree with you!š
My husband and I hold the same “rule”. When counseling women, I am always present.
We trust each other but never give room for doubts to form.
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Amen 27 years and counting!
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Congrats on 27 years!š
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Thanks!
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Is it possible to do both in your opinion?
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I don’t think it’s healthy for a positive marital relationship. If someone cannot confide in their spouse that means their relationship is not where it should be. Trust is something that takes a long time to build, however, with one simple mistake it can tear down what a couple has built.
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We have to place our selves in a position to protect our partners heart. Donāt allow a situation occur where you can confide in someone else. Your spouse should always be that person. Great post! flightministries.com
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Great to read this article and see the comments and discussion. 47 years Dave and I have been married. lack of communication and nurturing of each other as friends and companions I see as the greatest need in a marriage. For us too the importance of knowing we had a faith that cemented our relationship with each other and with the Divine. Journey well. Care for your mate. Life is unpredictably short.
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Faye, thank you for sharing! I agree with you. Congrats on 47 years!
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