After learning about your spouse’s positive and not-so-positive traits, it can be easy to fall into the trap of wanting to change them and begin to negatively criticize them.
Let’s take a look at the definition of criticism.
Criticism: the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes. (Google)
Criticizing your spouse is totally different than voicing a complaint or giving a critique because it is an attack on their character not on a specific issue.
When you begin a sentence with some of the words listed below you are criticizing your spouse:
1. You never..
2. You always..
3. It’s your fault..
4. Why can’t you just…?
Giving constructive criticism can greatly benefit a marriage. However, don’t attack the person but the situation. Find a solution to the problem together. These types of conflicts can have a positive or negative impact on a marriage depending on how it’s handled.
Are you dealing with constant criticism from your spouse? Are you the one criticizing? How does one react when being criticized? Is there a healthy way to criticize?
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up…”
-1 Thessalonians 5:11a
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