I’d love to say that our plans always work out but the reality is that sometimes they just don’t.
How do you handle a disappointing resolution to a situation when you and your spouse were counting on a positive outcome?
Do you:
1. Blame each other?
2. Get discouraged, angry, or moody?
As team players in a marriage, husbands and wives should not blame one other for situations beyond their control. Pointing fingers leads to anger and frustration but doesn’t actually solve the problem. Encourage your spouse and work with them to find a solution.
Take a look at the situation together and answer the “what” and “why” questions.
1. What could we have done differently to increase the chances of a more positive outcome?
2. Why didn’t our plan work out?
Apply the knowledge from your disappointing situation to make your next challenge successful!
How did you and your spouse work your way through a disappointing situation?
What are some of the best ways a wife can comfort her husband when he thinks he’s failed her or his family?
How can a husband comfort his wife when she’s disappointed that things went wrong?
Share your thoughts below!
Fearless Marriage 
Many years ago I was very sad because a good friend of mine was losing his battle with cancer. I was pouring out my heart to my significant other, and he said ” I can’t fix this for you.” I explained to him that I didn’t expect him to magically correct the problem, to me, the comfort was in him listening to me, letting me cry, or be angry. I think that actively listening is the best sort of comfort we can give anyone, whether it’s a spouse, child, parent or friend
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I think sometimes just having someone to listen can help a great deal.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend’s health.
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Oh, this was years ago, but thank you for the sentiment
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Exactly what came to my mind. Sometimes I just need to cry it out and be mad for a minute..
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Great Blog!
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Thank you!😊
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this is a hard thing for me and my bf. his mom is very controlling and interfere with our plans a lot. we usually have to stop what we have planned to do what she wants and bf will do it bc it’s his mom. I have talked to him how I feel about the situation and then he gets mad and cancels with his mom but blames me. it is a consistent struggle for me and him.
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Keeping an open line of communication about these kind of reoccurring circumstances could help work out the situation.
I hope you find the balance you are looking for in your relationship.
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I really appreciate this post. newly engaged here, but I will share this comment because I appreciate my future husband’s way of handling disappointments: his inviting me to honestly speak with him as he does with me and prayer! Because of various circumstances we have experienced being discouraged and disappointed however what has been most helpful is using God’s promises to us both His children, we remind each other of His love for us and pray together or one for the other when one of us is disappointed or discouraged with a circumstance.
I hope this made sense.
thank you for this blog!!
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That’s great that you have such great communication while engaged.
The Word brings such comfort. I’m glad to hear of its positive effects.
Keep the communication going even after marriage.
Thanks for your comment, lovingheartsfoundation!
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