Here are 5 important things to discuss with your intended before you tie the knot.
The Past – Start your marriage with honesty. Be transparent with your soon-to-be spouse. Clear up any problems that has the potential to resurface in the future. Ask each other questions… know who you are marrying.
Be sure to discuss past relationships, if you’ve been intimate with anyone else etc.. It might seem painful and hard to talk about this but God’s Word requires complete honesty and so does your marriage. Work through it together and you’ll approach your marriage with a deeper appreciation for each other.
Goals and Ambitions – Respect each other’s goals. Can you support his or her goal even if it turns out difficult to achieve? Work together as a team. Think about goals for your marriage as well. What are some accomplishments you’d like to see happen in your first year of marriage? Five years from now?
Finances – This one is very important. How are finances going to be handled? Will you join bank accounts? Who will make the budget and makes sure things stay on track? Will you both be working or is he financially able to support both of you? Make a financial plan so that you both know where you stand.
Family – Are you both in agreement that you would like to raise a family? If so, when would you start planning this major change to your family structure? Do you want time to adjust to each other before you consider having kids? Being a parent comes with a lot of responsibility and will bring change to your relationship…plus there are the costs.
Living Arrangements – Where are you planning to live once you are married? Are you planning to rent and save up for a down payment on a home you both love? Or are you staying with in-laws while you save? Let your fiancé know whether you prefer staying near your family or to move to another location. Come to an agreement and compromise a little if you both want something different.
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