The Language of Love

Have you ever heard it said that actions speak louder than words? I agree somewhat with that statement…but for marriage I think this statement works better: Both action and words speak volumes and volumes!

Husbands and wives (especially those who have been married for a couple of years) can communicate with each other with just a look or a touch. He can look at her and she’ll know what he means. She’ll touch his shoulder and he’ll know exactly what she’s telling him. Wordless communication between husbands and wives can get those sparks flying. However, in the right setting, using words of romance can add an extra spark or two.

The three most romantic and powerful words in the English language are the words “I love you.” Using and hearing these words every day can sometimes become..well…ordinary. Of course you know that both you and your spouse mean it when you say I love you to one another (and it should be expressed every day)! But, using a little creativity with your words can add something new in your relationship. For example, instead of saying, ” I love you” how about telling your spouse “When you look at me, my heart skips a beat”? Saying, “You hold the keys to my heart” lets your husband know how important his love is to you. Using words of romance helps describe your love and lets your spouse know how you feel about him.

If the English language doesn’t seem to have the right words for you why not try a real romance language? (I do not mean to learn the language or teach it to your husband.) Just borrow some words/phrases from whichever language you choose and use them when the mood is right.

Choosing the right phrases, using them at the appropriate time and also knowing what your husband will like may not be easy. But it can be something fresh and exciting for the two of you! He may even try to learn a phrase or two on his own.

Think about what you would like to say and learn how to pronounce your phrase. Don’t be confident when you speak. Show your husband you mean what you say. Remember that statement at the beginning of this article? Both action and words speak volumes and volumes!

Here are a couple samples to get you started:

1. Pienso en ti siempre – I always think of you (spanish)

2. Te amo desde el fondo de mi corazon – I love you from the bottom of my heart (spanish)

3. Abrazame – Hug me (spanish)

4. Je t’aime – I love you (french)

5. Tu es mon amour – You are my love (french)

6. Qu’est-ce que je ferais sans toi? – What would I do without you? (french)

These are just general phrases. If you are looking for a more passionate quote to “wow” your husband in either of these languages or in any language, do a little research.

Don’t want to use a romance language to speak romantically? You and your husband can make up your own! Give each other nicknames and use code words to make your relationship more playful. Whether your conversation is gibberish or coded (“Let’s light the fireplace.”= “Let’s go on a date soon.”) doesn’t matter. This shows that both you and your husband are in your own “world” and are great at communicating!

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